I think you can when the party that leaves isn't sure what they want because it makes the transition for the kids much more gradual.

I thought of inviting him because I didn't want the kids to miss out on going with their good friends I guess. I didn't even think.

Of course my D's birthday trumps Tahoe. Her birthday, and party, is Saturday. I wasn't going to go until Sunday.

What I wonder is if I GAL to Tahoe or take H up on HIS invitation to do something together. Do I mention the false hope? Or is that pressure because it somewhat says to tell me that it's not false hop?


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.