Thank you both so much! I did have a happy day! Got to visit with my sister for a little while, and now I am home with my boys. Hearing about their afternoon with Grandma and Grandpa and seeing their smiles always warms my heart.
About my response to H's e-mail this morning - I felt it was good, although I now wish the last sentence read, "They deserve every possible chance we can and are willing to give them." Sucks that you can't go back and edit an e-mail that's been sent! Oh well!
My reason for telling H that the boys are the sole reason why I try to make this work is because at this point, it is the honest to God truth. I could say that I try because I believe in M and in my vows, or that I try because I know with some genuine effort and positive thinking on both sides that it could work, or yada yada yada. However, IMO, none of that would get through to H. None of that would make him see that there was anything worth trying for. It is my belief that he would just shake his head or dismiss it because he CHOOSES not to see what's good. He CHOOSES not to see the possibilities that are there. We have stuff to build on. He just doesn't WANT to help me build it.
In addition, knowing how H would do ANYTHING for the boys, that was why I made the e-mail about THEM. Not me, not H, not what was right or wrong with the R. The boys. Yeah, I kind of "used" them, but I knew if I could get him to focus on the only little beings he holds closest to his heart, the only little people he sees good in, I just might get through to him.
Originally Posted By: girlfromipanema
What I don't understand is if he knows you deserve better and he knows he's been a total jerk, why can't he TRY to make things better. Why throw in the towel? Why not give it all you got?
You got me.
But I think my e-mail might have opened something up in H.
Dinner's just about ready, so I will post more later.
Have a great evening, all!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I did have a happy day! 
