Maybe Last Thread in Separating, Found DB 2 Late

[cw68]

OK, need advice here. Have been trying to DB well all weekend.

Very little contact. Saw each other yesterday at the tball game. He sat right next to me, got along well, per the norm. Was telling him that my niece is getting married at Disneyworld next Feb and that my sister/bro-in-law are paying for airfare and 2 nights hotel for the kids and me. Added him, too, if we're together but that they aren't betting on that. He said, "Might have to stick with you for a free Florida vacation then." We parted and he called the kids last night. He texted me that he was going to be at the club around 10:30am this morning if I wanted to bring the kids by for swimming, but would understand if I didn't want to. I responded that I will be leaving the club then after finishing yoga and thought that it would be best if the kids didn't see him b/c I kind of had plans, have stuff to do at the house and didn't want to explain to them why they can't hang with their dad. He said OK and that he'd workout later. When we left the club this morning, I texted him to tell him we were gone.

D6's birthday is next Saturday, as is her party. It's her Dad's weekend with her. I asked (via text) what his plan was for the weekend, if he was planning on spending Mem. Day with the kids because we were invited to a friend's cabin in Tahoe. (Friend, whose H moved out June 1, 2007 and moved back in last month, is a total DBer without knowing about DB, said he's not invited even if we get along well because he needs to feel this and have enough space to freak out with.)

He texted that he planned on hanging out with them Monday since he doesn't work and was going to see if I wanted to join them for some type of activity. That he hasn't planned D6's party yet and wanted to talk about it in the morning when he drops some of the kids' stuff off. (Also wants to say Hi to them.)

How do I respond? The party planning has typically been my domain, but I'm up for him doing it. Right now I have typed:

"Let me know what you are going to do, what you need me to do to help then, if you need my help.

Regarding Memorial day, I need to think. I just don't know if doing things together is a good idea for them or me. Gives hope because I feel we get along well, and false hope is bad."

Should I send it? How should I reply? What should I do about next weekend?

help!