Focus on how you work with the information, you aren't just a powerless victim of it. Spouses have a tremendous amount of influence on their partner's affairs. Michele has proven this.
You know I'm a strong believer in DBing and I think it has done wonders for me. But I don't believe it has had much, if any, influence on my H and/or his affair. I guess he hasn't rushed to divorce me, but he still seems to be interested in divorce like just asking his friend for the name of his attorney a few days ago. I guess there are maybe some WAS like my H that just want to be single or not have the responsibility or whatever, and maybe DB in that case won't help with your WAS, but just you and your own mindset? Sorry for the rambling today!!! Karen
Karen