As for D talks,let him initiate,and stay calm.Let him lead a conversation.If you've been controlling or manipulative,then any sign of you trying to steer the conversation your way will just be seen by him as more of the same.
Sit back,and let him express himself.
Me:34 W:31 Daughter:6 Married:5 years on May 24 Seperated from Sept 07 to Nov 07 2nd Seperation Mar 28 08 til now EAs/PAs on both sides since then Received divorce papers end of August