Yes, I miss the old H...very true. I don't miss the person he has become, also very true.
I hope coping does get easier.
I do very well mostly...once in a while though, I see my friends who are married...going through good and bad, and I long to have that again. I miss my marriage. The companionship, the love we shared.
Sometimes when I PMS, I get a little extra emotional, and cry about what used to be, or what could have been.
Thanks for popping by...!!
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I know sweety....it's hard to change that isn't it?! But I do try and see it for what it is...I no longer let myself spin cycle into a small depression. It remains just sadness.
Hope you're doing ok, will check out your thread !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
My prayers go out to you and your family. Your in-laws love and support you--don't forget that. This visit with them today may not go so smoothly as H and OW think but just keep doing what you are doing and being who you are.
I remember when my uncle left his wife and three kids and moved in with the lady from the bank. He ended up divorcing his wife to marry OW. One week before the wedding he went back to first wife and asked to take him back because he still loved her and this was the biggest mistake of his life. She said no and he married OW one week later.
He was never happy with OW and always looked like something was missing.
The first wife is still very close with our family and all of the cousins still refer to her as aunt so and so. Wife #2 never did fit in very well.
You keep your chin up and know God is with you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I do very well mostly...once in a while though, I see my friends who are married...going through good and bad, and I long to have that again. I miss my marriage. The companionship, the love we shared
I feel this way too. I am so sorry about your day. My in laws are like yours, very loving and supportive. Even though my H's OW is out of the picture, I see another one eventually coming (I don't see us getting back together), and they will have to accept this person. Its just the cycle, the way things change.
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and cry about what used to be, or what could have been.
I understand. I think we all do. Just from following your thread, I know you in generally in a great spot, enjoying your life. I go to see a therapist about once a month. She has a way of 'grounding' me. Last Friday, she said "You can't change the past, you can't control the future, all you can do is appreciate the present".
No really, I just spent some time praying and I told God that I truly can't and don't want to stop loving my H. I believe in the good person that he is on the inside...right now it's tucked very far away, or maybe it's only tucked away from me and other, and it's available to ow....who knows, what I DO know is that he is a good person, deep inside lies a caring, loving man, who used to be so proud of his family !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Cinders, First of all here's a (((((((((hug)))))). Secondly here's a (((((((((hug)))))))))) for your MIL. I would love to have a MIL like her! My MIL still comes to see me and the kids. It's gone from once a week to somewhere between fortnightly to monthly depending on what else she has on. She see's H and OW several times a week. Despite being told exactly how I feel she cannot see how she is hurting me. She just tells me her R with OW is different to the one she has with me. She is the delusional one.
Your MIL deserves your love and your continued respect. I don't feel like mine does.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I know sweety....it's hard to change that isn't it?! But I do try and see it for what it is...I no longer let myself spin cycle into a small depression. It remains just sadness.