If I can give you a little insight on my situation that might help. My wife made her changes very suddenly too and although there was no PA there was a EA that ended with her looking like a fool. This sent her into a phase of anger that lasted months and although she did not say it, I am sure she turned all of her anger towards me and her kids.
Well we are almost six months in and I think she may be a place where she is trying to reconnect with the kids and then maybe she will see what divorce does to kids. I say all of this just to let you know in the beginning I kept saying what about the kids. She insisted that they would be fine and would not hear any talk of how it would hurt the children. I just think that with some MLCers, they are unable to think or at least act out of concern for anyone other than themselves. It has certainly been like that for my wife for some time.
