Help! New to this...still hoping for R

[Rusty]

Thanks Sandi - it just seems like it has been so long and my pattern has been so destructive. I know he thinks everything I do is a trick to get him to come back, because that is almost always what I was doing. We are supposed to talk this week about the D and all the issues involved - it is so very complicated. He owns a business with my father. I don't know whether I should encourage the talk and act like I'm all for it or if I should fight like hell! If I wanted to do more of the same, that would be it. I just don't know how to handle it all. I am so angry with him for doing this to us. Financially things were just starting to look up and now with two households, etc. we have nothing! My oldest son is getting married in June, which has really been hard. All the feelings of a major family event having to be spoiled by our issues - where to sit, how to take pictures, gifts, rehersal dinner - it never ends! Anyone who has been through all that??? Patience has never been my virtue, but I am sure going to keep trying. But what does anyone think about the D talk???