A, The same pattern is playing over and over again in your situation and you both are stuck. You go dim and he pulls something to suck you back in. He goes dim and you worry and then are sucked in. It might help for you to go back and read through all of your old postings for I believe the solutions you are seeking are in them.
Keep the focus on you and your children. Your h is a big boy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
