As I was reading your post, I was thinking that your H needed to go back to pre-school, when a temper tantrum is at least a normal way to express your feelings! It really irritated me that he would acknowledge what day it was, and yet not say it. That felt pretty much like a stab in the back, when I read it.
His email at least showed a tiny bit of compassion, though in the end, it is still about him, however he disguises it.
