Jumping in late, I see, to this topic...but, I have an ex of 2 years now. Relationship? Crappy. I can do nothing right. I am a crappy father even though I buy everything, and anytime I speak to her it is a waste of my time. I am not looking for anything else from her, but just to be on a common ground with OUR kids and not looked at like I am the bad guy all the time. I could really care less about anything that has to do with her as a person but what ties us together still....is O-U-R kids. She is the one that has to deal with the bad feelings the kids will have for her when they get older....this has to go with the way they are living with her and the treatment of their emotions.