Just so you know Marcum you're not alone with the feelings you have. Our feelings are almost identical and I sympathize with your position. I'm sitting here watching my stbxw dismantalling what was our life together and feeling totally helpless to stop it. Not to mention the overwhelming sadness watching it happen.
The advice on my thread was that "it ain't over 'til its over" and time is not a barrier to the possibility of a new start.
You'll get through this, I'll get through this. Gotta have faith in God's will for us.