LOR,

I got the feelings back for my husband at a Retrouvaille weekend, http://www.helpourmarriage.org. And while we did not talk amongst ourselves about our problems, I got the idea a lot of the couples were finding time for sex there. (We were in a location that had twin beds in each room. At breakfast people were complaining about that fact and saying how they solved the problem.)You should look into it. It is an unbelievable program of self-help, not counseling. It is led by other couples who have had trouble in their marriages and solved them through Retrouvaille.