My WAW left our M a long time ago, I just didn't know it. I am making changes, even W has acknowledged them, so I know I am doing some things right. I am not whining or complaining or trying to be obnoxious by not listening, I actually hear a lot - I have not acted on a lot, but today, have made more progress in one day than I have in 3 weeks.
CBK---I see your progress.
Way back when I first came to this board, I was advised to go pitch black...I was out of control. I was able to eventually do it. 9 weeks. Pitch black is definitely 'detached'. But I didn't 'feel' it. I was crazy for at least the first half of that time. It took until I initiated contact, and it 'worked' ..... for me to 'feel' detached. After that 'success' I really was able to use lots of other DB techniques and be able to carry them through. Not 100%, but way better.
My bottom line is.....you're doing a pretty good job, just keep plugging away. You will gain momentum. (I'm not advising you to go pitch black.)
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
