I was not telling CBK not to post. Just to take a mere two days to read back on all the advice he's been given, to see if anything makes sense in the calm of day. These boards can be addicting, and others have found the need from time to time to take a break. CBK is, of course, free to take that advice or not, like he is of ANY of our advice, at any time.
I'm still not so sure what you're all worked up about here, or why you're attacking me.
Now, as far as this:
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But I do not agree with the common advice given on here to constantly hold your tongue -- say nothing, do nothing, act happy.
When I caught my husband cheating I confronted him. I waved cell phone bills in his face. I told the children. My son called OW and told her what our family thought of her affair with my H. And guess what? The affair ended. That day. Then we went to Retrouvaille and learned to communicate. Communication is what holds a marriage together, not silence.
It is 17 months since we reconciled. We are happily married, with an active sex life, and we volunteer to help others at Retrouvaille weekends. We are different people. And we did not become different people by pretending that we were happy when we weren't. We didn't solve our problems by pushing them under the rug. We solved our problems by taking a direct approach. Maybe it's not for everybody. But don't tell people it can't work. It can.
