Thanks for taking the time to read through all that! I am definitely concerned about giving him so much time to handle everything, but if I push *too* hard he might decide to sell the house (which would likely be at a loss right now) and he will either need to tap into his 401(k) or refinance the house to manage this deal, so the longer time frame may not even get used.
On the upside for him it would get him sole use of the house without me here, and he's free to entertain whomever he chooses in the house right away, rather than having to agree to ground rules (ie OW and her 3 kids can't move in) for between now and when he refinances. He knows now that with nosy small town neighbors, he won't be able to get away with much, so having me out w/o strings will appeal to him. He was only interested in paying 1yr of alimony but was adamant about it not being written into the divorce (riiight, like I'm going to agree to that!) so this would get around that issue while making both of us happy. On the upside for me, it gets me into a new home soon, gets me financially secure, and gets me out of regular contact with him and his nasty emotional outbursts.
My L had actually suggested I bring it up, of course I will not sign anything until I have had her review it, but if we can agree on everything it makes the D simpler and quicker (and therefore much cheaper) than using L's and a mediator.
