GAL very important...for yourself, and also so that your kids will have more normalcy and stability. You must concentrate on yourself and children, and let your H deal with himself. You must accept that there is nothing that you can do to change him, but that you can learn to become stronger yourself..and you will.
Whether it is MLC or not, you will learn to survive.
The loneliness...the part of us that feels 'ripped' out of our very bodies..will take time to heal. But the more you find out about yourself, the more you will be able to help heal some of that hurt.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible