Confused no longer - Give me the strength

[Hope4us]

I don't sign on DB for one Sat evening and look what I'm missing

SW, Haven't commented on you sitch for a while, but I've been following along. Isn't it funny how the waywards don't want to be with you, but don't want you to be with anyone else either? In my sitch OM got insanely jealous of a couple of TM's she got from a guy she works with. He checked her cell phone bill and did some on line search and found out who it was. And OM went balastic. The friend is African-American and OM is the most racist pig around. He started calling OMW all kinds of names and was talking about her F'ing the N. You get the picture. And here's the kicker. OMW does taxes on the side and was doing this co-worker's taxes and just needed a couple of additional pieces of info. That's another thing that bothers me about the mess I'm in. Not so much anymore, but while WW was in the middle of the affair I could tell her attitude had changed some when it came to minorities. And it made me sick. We've always brought up our kids to be accepting of all races/cultures and I could see some of OM's attitudes creeping in and I wanted to puke.

What's all that mean? I get the impression that waywards think because they don't have any morals, no one else does either. I like Pup's suggestion. If your H starts getting jealous, I would just tell him that he gave up the right to be checking up on who you're talking to/spending time with when he moved out, but that YOU respect your martial vows and will continue to do so.