Hi just to say sorry you are here but welcome. Not all affairs are because of MLC.Some are exit affairs, some are just that, affairs that run their course. First off is to read up on the topics at the top of the page-advice. Have you got the DB books? Patience and then some is the key to MLC it can take years to go through, so whilst your waiting you have to concentrate on you and your children and get a life (GAL). What makes you think your H is in MLC apart from his affair? Got to dash now but I know its horrible when you pluck up courage to post and no one replies,so just wanted to say Hi and your not alone, keep coming back you will find great help and support here. Maybe tell us a bit more about yourself. Take care.