Thanks, everyone.As always, I appreciate everyone's help on this. I can't believe the thread didn't lock yet. I'll get back with you all later.

As one who never quits on anything, I look at the "problems" in my marriage as so fixable, because fo so long now, once she made me aware of stuff, I chnaged it. I didn't whine, shoot back or complain. I chnaged it the best I could. she, on the other hand, never made any attempt to change her vitriolic behavior, shot temper, of unacceptance of any flaws in anyone. It's so frustrating, but alas it is what it is.