>>Would it be mean to shake things up and tell ow that stbxh frequently tries to initiate sex with me? <<
Is it "mean" for XH2B to use the house as a place to stay until he can support OW? And force you into having to live with all this? Is it "mean" for XH2B to try and set up OW as baby sitter and "full-time mom" for D?
Do you enjoy having XH2B living there with you, or would you rather get him out of the house?
Would you like to see the tables turn and have OW become suspicious, jealous and insecure?
Olive, I don't think I'd outright tell OW about the situation (that might make her suspect you are doing it to make her jealous), but I'd hint at it... I'd probably send H a sexy text message when I knew he was with OW. Also, I might even try to make being at the house uncomfortable for H and act like he's driving me sexually crazy being there in the house! I might mention to OW how difficult the sexual tension is in the house for both of you. Hee hee!!!! And I'd tell H how I find it hard to resist him... even though I really didn't!!!!). That may scare him and get him out of the house.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
