I'm convinced that there's not much one can do about the whole "clashing libidos" thing unless BOTH parties are willing to work -- and damned hard, too -- at it. And even then, results are mixed.
But this whole theory of "change starts with YOU, and then your spouse will have to react to your changes," in my opinion, doesn't work when it comes to something as inherent as a sex drive.
Most of the books I've read merely help you to DEAL better with it -- sometimes MUCH better -- and grow individually. But I don't see a lot of better sex going on, sadly.
