Help! New to this...still hoping for R

[Rusty]

Sandi - thank you so much! I am really trying to do and be all those things, I just worry so much that it is too late. I really look at our "real" separation as beginning after we "dated", so 10 months ago. But he says he has been separating from me for a very long time. I wasn't the best spouse and took alot of granted - always had the control and upper hand, so this is very unfamiliar. I love the part about believing what I hear and see. I don't believe for a minute that he doesn't love me - I think he is just scared to trust again, as I have been very mean and controlling in the past. But I really know that I have changed and continue to change, I just don't know how to prove it. Thanks you so much for the info - I will copy and paste it in my "goals" sheet. Which is getting me through right now. That - and my prayers. I am really focusing on my career right now and trying to stay busy in that area. I know I sound so needy, but I really appreciate you replying!