I feel for you LMG. My H did the opposite. He told me he was going to have to leave but not until after Christmas and then the day after Christmas he did just that. Walked out carrying all of his clothes right in front of our son after telling him he had to leave and moved in with OW. I don't know if more of a clean break was easier than the slow agonizing wait you find yourself in.
I am so sorry you are in the limbo you are in. We're all in the same boat so we feel your pain. You're strong, you can handle this.
((((LMG))))
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!