After 17 mts of seperation and the only communication with my stbxw angry letters back and forth through lawyers I took the risk of reaching out to her by phone in the hope that we could resolve the outstanding issues between us. Much to my surprise we spoke on the phone and she came over to talk in person.
The conversation was pleasent and we actually agreed on the seperation of contents. The next day I called my L and told him that it was time to complete the agreement and put an end to the legal money pit.
stbxw came over the next day to remove agreed upon contents. Here's the confusion. The process was pleasant and the exchange between us was light and humerous and dare I say normal. Even small examples of intimacy. ie pet names.
My question is, having not spoken for soooo.. long is it possible that this could be an opportunity to discuss R, past, present and future or should I simply allow it to continue on the road to D.
I'm very confused right now. Act, don't act? Contact her, don't contact her? We haven't spoken as husband and wife in a long time so this seems like an oppotunity to at least try to reach out and test the water. Speaking with her the other night I realized that we were both acting defensive because of the legal situation but in reality I saw in her the woman that I love, did she see it in me?
