I don't there is such a thing as romantic love. If we can't describe it how can label it love?
I think "happiness" is what it's all about. I don't think happiness comes from external sources. It comes from within.
When we experience sufferings from a failed relationship we should generate the wish to escape from that relationship. I'm not suggesting that we leave it in the sense that we might think, but rather leave that R behind in our mind. Rather we should focus on enlightenment since that leads to happiness. And when our spouses see our happiness they will want some of the same.
