I'm sorry about your recent turn, but -- like all the others -- I do think this will help you. Perhaps God knew how much you could handle (or COULDN'T handle), and has given you this time and space to help you with the detachment with which you struggle so.
I wouldn't waste your time on the MC. Does your insurance cover it, or are you having to pay cash? MCing rarely works when one of the marital partners is in an active affair. MC can come later, if and when your wife decides she WANTS to work at the marriage, but just isn't sure if she CAN.
