Quoting Soupman: You're right. We are social creatues and it does make us feel could when we look for acknowledgement. And yes, we're programmed (by historical habit) from birth to behave this way. But what has it gotten us. Most people in this world seek happiness from external sources never to find it.
Perhaps, Soup. But without getting too philosophical, is life a destination? You ask where it’s gotten us. I think you’ve kinda answered your own question (albeit with another question)
Quoting Soupman: Giving and taking. How can we learn to love with no one to love? How can we practise giving with no one to give to, or patience with no one to irritate us?
I know I’m not really answering your question, but how do we learn to accept love with no one to give it to us? Or accept gifts with no one to give it to us? Or grace with no one to forgive us?
My W has, at one time or another taught me all of these things.
And how do we experience our uniqueness without it being reflected back at us by someone who knows us intimately?
It may be true that we’re “programmed” to certain feelings. The debate still rages amongst behavioralists and geneticists. I really don’t much care how I got the way I am. To be honest, I believe there’s a bit of both.
I loved being loved and loving in return. It lasted for over 20 years, and that symbiosis may be coming to an end. I have to accept that, but it takes time to get over, and I don’t think I’ll ever embrace it.
‘Course, I’ve been wrong before.
Don’t worry about hijacking my thread, KAW. I’m not using it much anyway
