OK, if anyone is still reading, I have an update and a question. I have continued to work on my friendship with my wife and we are getting along much better. She is even confiding in me with problems she is having with other parents at the school and similar issues that are bothering her. I have made an effort to be of more help around the house and to get some projects done that I have left undone for one reason or another. She was right in complaining about those. Now, we still have not had any kind of real sex since just after Christmas. I only look her in the eye even when she is naked as I am working to shut off all physical desire for her. Question: What does this do to her? My goal is not to punish her (don't throw me in that briar patch!) but to get me to a point where I can live next to a woman indefinitely without having sex. ie, conversion to a sister. But will she see this as rejection even though she has no interest in sex?
Mine did. And then she sought her sexual, youth and beauty validation in the arms of another man, half her age.
Your thread fascinates me, as you sound SO much like my own sitch. My wife is a beautiful, fit, sexy woman, and yet she has little to no desire. But if I "shut it off" in an effort to be able to cope with her lack of sex and affection, and treat her like a sister or a roommate, it bothers her greatly.
She likes to be thought of as sex-Y, without having to have any ACTUAL SEX with me.
Seems we're damned if we do, and damned if we don't.
