Confused no longer - Give me the strength

[Snow White]

Short version: let your husband twist in the wind a little, but DO let your friend know that he can't contact you outside of work.
Puppy

Thanks Puppy, that is the advice I thought I would get so I am glad I asked, cause as I said it is the exact opposite of what I naturally would do.

I actually had to say something to another co-worker as well, this one I actually have not even seen but have emailed. He was a friend of mine when I worked in a differnet office before I moved ot the one I am in now, we had periodically emailed back and forth. At the time I worked there I was 23(and dating my H) he was in his 30's divorced, he had a major crush on me, but I always just thought of him as a friend. He has since remarried and has 2 kids, and is quite happy.

About a month ago (actually about 2 days before H moved out) a mutual friend from that office sent me a random email that cracked me up - I had not talked to her in years and it was just a few inside jokes that she had thought of that reminded her of me. So I in turn thought of him and another girlfriend from the office and send them each an email. This resulted in breif explanations of where my life was at(as really I had almost been in hiding).

Anyways what was an email every month or two to check in all of a sudden turned into 20 or more a day from this man, at first it was ok because as you can see I love to talk but then I started feeling almost uncomfortable. He said nothing inappropriate, other than very firmly believing I should get a divorce, but it kind of made me feel odd that every morning the first thing he did when he got to work was email me. And then immediately back with any response as if he was just sitting there waiting. This is how my H's EA started, concern for his coworker.

So I didn't say don't contact me because really he is just being a friend but instead I asked him if he had told his wife about my situation. He said yes that a friend at work was having trouble and that he would email me. I said ok, I'm really glad, I think maybe I am overly sensitive, because even before anything ever happened with H if I had seen that he was sending 20 or 30 emails a day to any woman I would have been concerned(I didn't even mention, one that you told half the world you were in love with at one point). Since then he has not emailed me back. He said oh she is not overly jealous - but he has not emailed again, and I am good with that.

Last night my SIL called and invited D for a sleepover, I then had time to cut the grass and went to a movie - What happens in Vegas. Is it me or can I get DB principles from every hollywood love story there is?

First time I ever went to a movie alone, it wasn't so bad. Only thing is a picked that one because I got there at 9:30 and I thought it started in 10 min but it didn't start until 10:05 so it is a long wait sitting there by yourself, particularly when you are ignoring the texts that are coming in(which I successfully did).

Responded to H's texts on the way home in the car just to let him know I was ok and home. The last text he had sent came in right before the movie was over(I wasn't looking just saw the time later) must be having a good time, can't even respond to your HUSBAND. Hmmm, is that what he calls himself? Haven't heard that in a long time.


I must have been sleeping sound this morning because he came in my room and I guess had already been here showered ect, usually I can tell if someone pulls in the driveway never mind actually comes in the house. Seems every time I go out I get fresh coffee in the morning(gotta make sure no one else is here) that is a bonus, I love my Timmie's coffee.

H told me last night that he was on vacation from June 8 - 14. and asked if that is when the golf vacations were. I don't even know what to think of that question. (I had quite a while back sent an email to myself from myself(because I know H snoops) and then deleted it and left it in the sent that said "Hey H we should do this, we really need to get away and spend some time alone" attached to the specials that I had gotten from a golf course in MI) He of course "found it" in my sent.