If You Love Somebody, Let Them Go???

[Hope4us]

No offense intended MoMo, but DO NOT START DATING. First, you're still married, even if your H is involved with OW. Second, if you still want your marriage to work, adding a 4th person to the mix would do nothing but make things even worse. Third, do you think it would be fair to anyone you date for them to possibly become interested in you when you really want your H back. Fourth, With your marriage where it's at, if you start dating and a man pays attention to you, I guarantee you will not be thinking rationally and you will begin to crave that attention, just like your wayward H did when his A started and you'd be off and running in your own affair.

That doesn't mean you can't go out with friends, GAL, be the best person you can be. Live YOUR life, if your H wants to join in when this affair ends (which it will), great, if not you'll be just fine without his sorry butt.

Who else knows about this affair? Is the OW married? Do his parents know what their son is doing?

There's two schools of thought with affairs. You can be passive and let them burn out on their own or you can be aggressive and take steps to help expose the affair for what it is, nothing but a fantasy.

Which way do you want to go?