I know what you mean - I think we want it to be over, too (like the WAS only different :(), but it's not. There is no schedule for going through this process and a lot of the advice you see talks about a couple of years to really see change. Plus, your sitch has changed significantly in the last couple of months. Let it be. . . .
PS - Seek has it spot on here too!
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.