Maybe Last Thread in Separating, Found DB 2 Late

[cw68]

To you and me both.

[Virtually_Handsome]

A little validation never hurt anyone!

[CBK]

Hey CW - when you come on tonight - visit my thread - HUGE bump in the road. But I am enjoying a maragrita (okay, a few) on my front porch as this was an amazing last 3 hours...

CBK

[Sara]

Your thread's locked CBK, or I would have posted on it. I searched back on your thread and found a letter. I assume that is the letter.

The letter is fine. It's long, and repetitive, but it doesn't break any rules. You don't accuse her of anything, you don't use foul language, you talk mainly about yourself, so it's OK. It may not be what she wants to hear now. She may not be ready for the letter. But I can't see that sending it does any harm. It is a warm, loving, thoughtful, straight from the heart letter. Marriage is about communication. You are trying to open a line of communication. That is a good thing. Looking forward to hear how she responds.

[CBK]

Thanks sara - don't mean to highjack CW's post - I am now at http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1448704#Post1448704 What a night. Thanks for your words, much appreciated.

CBK

[cw68]

Hijack as needed. This board's here to support all of us.

[cw68]

Can I whine for a few minutes here? I hate not having a partner around to share the tough stuff. Tomorrow morning I have to lug a twin bed and metal trundle upstairs by myself and move the kids' beds all around. My kitchen is overrun with ants. It would be a lot easier to clean it up with the help of another.

At the same time, I'm bound and determine to do this by myself if only to show my H I did.

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((cw)))))
Whine away!
Slide things wherever possible!

[CBK]

What a pain CW - I wish I was closer, would have helped - got nothing but time on my hands now! Well, I guess I had time before, just didn't know how to use it!

Do it early before it gets too hot! Sorry you have to do this alone.

CBK

[cw68]

I had a friend help me move the stuff upstairs, so it's all good. Now I just need to move some stuff around and I know I can do that; it's all on carpet and I can slide it.

The ants, on the other hand, will be here a while. It takes 10-14 days for the Grant's ant stakes to work and I'm not even at a week yet. grrr. Hate ants, they are such a pain.

OK, a little note on H. S5 was supposed to have a tball game at 6pm yesterday, but with the temperature over 100, I didn't want him to play. H agreed and said he'd see us at today's 11am game. I work at our health club until 5:30pm on Fridays. H came in while I was still there, all hot and sweaty from riding his motorcycle. I said that the jacket must really be hot in this weather and he replied that he wasn't wearing his riding jacket. Apparently his boss (and DINK friend, Ducati rider) yelled at him saying he was a Dad, to which H replied, "Yeah, but my kids only see me half the time. They won't miss me." H meant it as a joke, but I thought it was sad. At least he realized the suckiness of not seeing your kids all the time. I didn't tell the kids Dad was there as we've had meltdowns from D6 before when we go to leave.

He called last night to say goodnight to the kids. When they were done S5 asked, "Do you want to talk to Mom?" (Which I've asked them not to ask that, said Dad will ask to talk to me when he wants, but they obviously want him to talk to me because they both continue to ask.) He did. We chatted for a couple of minutes. I was busy getting the kids to bed and got off of the phone but I definitely felt like we could have just continued to chat away. Of course this could be me reading things into nothing, but it really seemed that he missed us.

Oh, earlier in the day when we were talking about tball, he said he wanted to stop by sometime this weekend so he could see the kids. I responded with, "Did you listen to my voice mail? I thought it would be a good idea for you to come get the kids for dinner Monday. Then you could see them Sat, Mon and they'll stay with you Weds night." I have to weave a fine line between them seeing him enough yet also making him want to see them more. I don't like using the kids, but think this is OK for a short while.