CBK. It sucks, doesn't it? I think I knew for months that my H had to move out. He definitely needed his space. The separation has allowed both of us to grow and I think it was, to borrow my husband's term, a necessary evil.
In many ways, it does make it easier. Now make sure to give your W space. For her and for you. Make it be for you!
I hope you sleep well.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09