It's been awhile since I posted, so here's a quick overview of my situation. H and I are separated, and I learned in early April that my H is still involved with OW. I thought the affair ended before he moved out, but I think it started again when OW moved back to this area in December (she had been living 4.5 hours away). H doesn't live with her, although from what I can tell he's there alot. So I've had to deal with two "honeymoon" periods in the affair (when it first began, and when she moved back here).
Since I read Divorce Remedy in January/February, I've been able to keep from pleading/begging/crying/being miserable with H. I struggled with R talks (I would want to have them; he, of course, hated them) until I learned the affair has continued. I now have zero interest in discussing our marriage or the affair, so that has been a good thing. I only call him when I need to discuss something about the children. I think I've done well as far as not being clingy or needy with him.
I'm at the point where I realize that he has to figure out the grass isn't greener where he's grazing, and that his relationship with OW probably won't last or be a healthy one. Other than waiting patiently, staying busy, and limiting unncessary contact with H, is there anything else I should be doing?
As far as the title for my thread, I don't want to let my H go as in divorce. I want him to see that I am not going to get sucked into the drama that this whole situation could easily be and spend my days desperate for him to come back. As long as we're married, will he feel truly free to go all the way to the end of this dead-end street with OW?
Thanks for any responses. I hope I made sense; I've got a sick little one curled up next to me, so my attention has been divided...
