she has played this online game for a while now, but the month and a half before she left she got sucked into it. she would play 10- 12 hours a day plus go to work. That meant she would never go to bed at the same time as me. she neglected everything around the house and would only eat if i made dinner and handed it to her. she told me that she was hiding from a life that she did not like, but at hers parents that’s all she did too. Now at her friends house it is pretty much more of the same.
The on line games was my downfall. That is what sucked me into further things that hurt my M. It is addictive to the point that people will break up their M to be alone in order to have the privacy and freedom to do what that choose on line.
Four years apart is a long time in a MR. But, if she would just get into school and get busy, it would be good for her right now. However, I am very, very concerned that her attention is far from being in school at the moment. I think she is in replay and wants to experience being a "wild teenager" without any responsibilities or consequences. If she is totally ignoring any contact with you......I think I would not feel duty bound to support her. I believe I would go dark and let her make the next contact and see how it goes.
This is a sad situation and I hope for the best, but I'm afraid you are in for a bad time of it b/c I think she will try to wreak her life unless something gets her eyes open real quickly. However, that can happen.....after all, I would have ruined my own life if I had not come here to this board.
Take care of yourself and try to keep a life for yourself. I pray that things will work out for you.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
