once again, your story is mine!! married almost 7 years, had some issues, but nothing major, out of the blue, "not in love with you, I want out". It's been 3 months for me and I found this site. It's the things that keeps me sane (and therapy). I still cry, but not every day, just every OTHER day now. When I see him, it's hard (drop offs and pick ups),but these people on here are smart. When you TRULY DB, act like you are great and GAL, it shifts the whole thing. I felt this today. h picked up d and chose to stay for almost 2 hours and CLEAN (he always does this). But I was calm, easy-going and only came close to crying ONCE. he actually SMILED and wanted to hug me when he was leaving. it takes a while to "get" the whole db thing, at least it has been for me. I thougth I could db "my way", you know, db for a day, then threaten, plead, beg the next. doesn't work. you have to do this EVERY FREAKIN DAY. I am now seeing the difference.
there are unbelievable people on this board. nikb, saffie, kalni, the list goes on and on. you are most def. in the right place.
