Cat-- Just caught up. Hope you have a great weekend camping I think I'll be doing that alot this summer. At least with the SA, things are legal and he can't mess with the financials... Hug your littles...
well, it is done, I signed the SA, then went immediately to do the refinance, stbx actually asked before signing hisname off the deed "how do I know you'll be giving me my money?"
*ROLL of eyes*
I reminded him that 5min ago I had just signed a LEGAL SA which said I'd pay him the $, ish!! to what he said "well, can't blame me for asking", anyways, he was in and out, for a while I was about to cry as I signed him out of the house, but thank heavens the urge evaporated and I was comforted to know that I'll be getting 2k or so because of some legal mumbo-jumbo : )) that made my day.
Looking forward to a good weekend, hugs to all))))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Have a great weekend, Cat. It's a weird place to be, you're still married but you're not and you're not divorced but you kinda are. Welcome to the adventure! Oh, did it stipulate what currency you need to pay him in? A little Burmese currency could be of some use to him. Don't ya think?
I guess it is weird, we are not D yet, but the thing is, this M has been dead for a looooooooong time, he wanted a legal S asap when we last talked in Feb. He wanted to talk to a mediator, Ls where involved, I was not about to sign stuff that binded me forever to him (wait til kids are older to sell the house, him coming over and still with ow with full intent on D, him putting me through hell, getting $$ out of me to be with her, lying and betraying me). Yup, I was married but I had no H, he was just there, a husk.
Legally I'm married still, but we are not bound by anything anymore, by choosing to be with a prostitute who insulted our kids, threaten his job and EVERYone knows is a basket case and by betraying me each time I trusted him he's given the kiss of death to our M.
wii, fig, you guys crack me up!! lol, funny money should do
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
hi cat; off boards more than on, but wanted to come find you. VERY proud of you and how far you've come out of such a difficult sitch.
Nutshell BI update: The good Lord has finally graced my H with a new job, more $$ than he made before the A and his firing, and we will be moving about 2 hours away from here, which should help with a 'new start' for sure; lots going on. Still the M suffers where it shouldn't, but I'm believing God to restore things, and H being 'provider' again after 2+ years of shame and humiliation is a good start. There: you finally got a bit of an update! Will get back to posting on blog in a few weeks I hope.
{{{{cat}}}}
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
must be a very strange sort of limbo, but you sound like you are doing great! hope the refinance is smooth for you, and great job staying strong. hard to do, those tears are hard to fight back some time.
(((HUGS)))
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M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I think I'll be doing that alot this summer.