I'm sure the age difference is making a difference in our relationship. Honestly, I thought that if was going to make a difference, it would have when we were "new," but it didn't. I do know that H is attracted to older women. The woman with whom he had an EA was older than him, though not as old as me. One time when I mentioned me being freaked out that he's young enough to divorce me, get a new wife and start a new family, as where I am too old and not able to have anymore kids, he said, "But you know I like older women." Maybe he likes our poise, our maturity, but doesn't want it himself?

At the end of the day, I think too bad. You chose this, you married me, had kids with me, lived the grown-up life. I'm not all that sympathetic I guess. That's probably a problem, in fact.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.