What you focus on expands. If you don't expect change you'll never get it.
Your C also said control freaks never change. I did! but when I was a control freak I just thought that I liked to know what everyone was doing or how they were doing it and I could offer a better way to do it. I thought it was conversation. I didn't know that labeled me a control freak. I must've changed because now I know nuttin about anything anyone is doing and sharing ideas is a foreign language!
I could use a good stiff water over rocks please.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.