Thanks Diana, I have ordered the book you and several others have suggested, and I too am sorry that you are going through a similar situation. It is very difficult hearing him talk about the OW, which is not as often lately, as I have not seen him in a few days, as much as I hate hearing it from him I figure if I am trying to be there as a friend and someone he can talk to then I still have that door open. I like the journal idea, I had started writing every once in a while but usually it is just to get the hurt and pain out of my system when I am getting overlly emotional about the situation,, it sounds like you are at least making some progress and that is good I hope it keeps getting better for you. I totally agree with your statement about knowing that you at least will know you did everything you could to save your marriage, and that is my goal, even though there are days where I just want to give up I cannot throw away 20 years without trying. I just wish I knew what was bothering him all this time before it got to this point..
MAZ Me 40 H 42 M 1990 Together 20 years Bomb 2/16/08 Separated 03/01/2008 2 boys 12 & 15
I hope it keeps getting better for you. I totally agree with your statement about knowing that you at least will know you did everything you could to save your marriage, and that is my goal, even though there are days where I just want to give up I cannot throw away 20 years without trying. I just wish I knew what was bothering him all this time before it got to this point..