(((((cw)))))
I am wondering, and I don't hink we've ever explored it, do you think the age difference between you and H could be relevant? It sort of seems like you are "grown up" enough to understand the responsibilities and obligations (as well as the joys) of raising a family. It seems from here that maybe he isn't so much. Does that make any sense?

Does he know the deadline (I'm sure you've said, but I can't remember!)? Has he said anything to indicate it means anything to him?

I don't really like the heat, but I like that it makes golf on a summer afternnon really cheap! Too bad I am horrid! Maybe if I actually played some I'd get better!