Confused no longer - Give me the strength

[Snow White]

I have a question, I actually think it is probably a pretty stupid one, but my concern is that I am instinctually wrong for what I would do in this situation and I want to confirm that doing the opposite of what I want to do is the right choice


Ok, my H the one who moved out almost 5 weeks ago to clear his head for a week is very concerned with what it is I am doing. He doesn't have much of an imagination so he keys in on certain people that I have mentioned at one time or another. I joined a baseball team and last week played catch with a co-worker who is on the team and last night was my first game.

My H has been on this ever since day one, constantly questioning about this coworker(to be honest he is the only one here my age, however, I am not attracted to him physically or personally and would have preferred to be on a different team altogether). When he happens to see me before or after work it is did you wear that for him, ect. Last night I left my phone in the car(as I intend to do every game) and there were 4 texts when I got back about whether or not I was flirting with him and then saying he knew I was lying and had feelings for this guy. So anyways when I did speak to H I simply stated that he is just a guy I work with, nothing else (sound familiar? except its true) I don't talk to him outside of work ect.

So anyways it was this guys day off today, out of the blue he called me 3 times from his cell. I only answered the last one was busy the other 2. Just to say have a nice weekend, hope I had fun at the game, see me Tuesday ect.

So if I had never been through what I have and read as much, and listened to all of you my first instinct would be to mention this to my H out of honesty. I believe that you will all tell me not to, not his business. I also know if I do tell him it will just promote more ridiculous jealousy, but do I want that?

The simple fact of the matter is that this guy does nothing for me and I am not looking for anyone. However, when I met my H it was playing summer ball, I had a boyfriend of 3 years who had broken up with me prior (for another girl) and we had gotten back together but he didn't treat me well. I met H and thought he was the cat's meow. I did not cheat on my boyfriend but I did leave him for H. While I do not want H to believe I would pick up and leave him(as he did me) I think he should be aware that those who don't learn from the past are doomed to repeat it.