in limbo and an emotional mess...

[Sugar and Spice]

Mzul I can totally relate to your situation as mine is somewhat similar...the limbo and being his friend and someone to talk to.
My H and I have had some highly innapropriate conversations about his OW and its because we are "friends", but it tears you up inside having to listent to the man you love tell you how he feels about someone that isn't you.

Are you seeking any type of C for you or your boys? If not, please get them in to see someone as soon as you can. This is too much to try and handle along with just being a kid and it might really help you to talk to someone as well. I know this is all new, but have you given any thought to what you want and need?

I am definately not the DB poster child as my threads prove, but I can tell you that you need to start taking care of yourself and your boys. Your H is a big-boy and needs to figure this out on his own. Its not about you, which is sometimes one of the hardest things to understand. As hard as this is you need to eat, sleep and carry on. Find something that you can do with your boys that you enjoy to get your focus off of H and OW and what they are doing and bring the focus onto you.

I'm so sorry you have to be here, but there are many helpful and wise people on these boards that are always willing to lend an ear or give advice.

(((((Mzul)))))