WHTDIDIDO: He knows he is equally at fault. What he did was pretty awful as well. He knows this. I had told him over and over what I needed/wanted. He did nothing. I realize that telling him didn't communicate the way he needed me too, but goodness. He didn't tell me anything he needed. He knows he is passive-aggressive. I should have forced him to go see a counselor sooner. I should have told him before I had an affair and tell him that I was close to having one. There are many things I should have done. But, at the time, it felt like I had done everything to tell him over and over what I needed and he didn't do anything. He put everything else in front of me.
I hear this from my W, says she tried to tell me, I didn't hear, I keep telling her she didn't try hard enough, I told her she should have said listen I'm going to leave if this or that doesn't get fixed, that was earlier this year when I first found out about OM, now its not you it's me, W says she is not cut out for this type of life (M with 4 kids) a life of chaos (whatever)
enough of me, back to you, being worried is a good thing, you know its going to take time.
Commit for the long haul, build memories, be open with each other, learn about each other. Take time, to fall back in love with each other.
You are posting now, how you feel now, this is all relatvely new, I know you are scared, who wouldn't be - you don't know what your future holds, no one does, I'm scared too. We know one thing that we can hang onto right now, we are trying to do the right thing, no one can ever fault you/me for that.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important
We are all pulling for you and your H
Jeff from St Louis
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ??? Let me hope !!! W moving out June 1st - 17 days
