Yes, and my H's OW is/was mostly long-distance and every time they saw each other was a weekend or week in bed honeymoon in theory. And yet....9 months later...he's saying he broke up with her.
First, they can't be that intelligent to be having a torrid affair. Second, they may be book smart but they both lack some common sense obviously. Third, they sound TOO much alike and that alone will drive them apart.
Finally, you are only putting yourself down by comparing yourself to her. They are completely different categories. OW are never the wonderful people we imagine them to be because wonderful people do not knowingly have affairs!
You are so much better than her, and even if he tries to tell you different, don't believe him. You are right, they are in the honeymoon period probably, but reality will nevertheless set in - it may take longer, but that'll only make it all the more brutal when it does!
And a big ditto to Jack - do not make his path back to you harder by trying to make him feel guilty or shamed. He will feel that all on his own - he probably does now even though he won't openly admit to it. It is the party line - she is a better match for me and I'm never coming back - and yet it rarely is true in the long run.
She is an addiction. She is a symptom of his own issues and the problems in the M. She is a quick fix, a distraction. Nothing more. The effectiveness of getting the high off seeing her will diminish and then he will have to face what he has done.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
