So, here I am. Running up really close to the 'deadline' I gave H. I told him he needed to come to a mediation appt with me before the end of May, or I would hire an atty. He keeps avoiding me. I regret giving this deadline, but canNOT 'back' out of it, can I? I am sure he remembers it. What do I do?
I see his actions. He is making plans for his life, and they don't include me. I see him distancing himself from me, by staying mostly business (kids/$ talks only). There comes a time right? I hate limbo. I am mortified to be married to a person who is constantly living a single life in one way or another. I am lonely and though I know a new R isn't anywhere in my near future, I think I would be less lonely if I worked through the pain of this divorce, and moved on, on my own.
lwb, no need to back out if you don't want to...if you are unsure and want some wiggle room, tell him exactly what I told H...give him the name/number of the mediator and tell him that since this was his ballgame, you feel like its important that he make the call. HE can set up the appt.
now, if you are truly ready to end your marriage, that is different.
and yes, I understand the embarrassment. and I understand how impossible it is to move forward in your own life, at least in regards to another relationship, while still M. some do fine with that, I didn't.
as for the new life stuff, he is trying to figure things out and I truly believe that stuff is about HIM, not about you. he likely isn't even thinking in terms of it.
keep doing what you are doing my lwb. you are an amazing, wonderful woman. a constant inspiration to me.
mwah!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
