H is Having Affair after all - Part 2

[Evie]

Thanks Jen, Your so positive, I love your outlook and your advice....I have printed it off to keep reading!!!

Thank you so much for your advice.

You h recommitted to M within a year didn't he? Can there really be any hope for me?

D2 got on well with the C, she did open up and she had a little cry. The c has given her some homework and asked her to write a letter to H, but to not send it to him to just take it with her next week and they will work on it. May/may not send it. She said its ok to feel angry and she feels it b/c she loves H and is hurt. She said to paint a face of the ow on a pillow and punch the hell out of it.

Got on well with the solicitor (another £200.00 for peace of mind!!). She basically went over stuff we had talked about before, but maybe I didn't take in at the time for whatever reason.


She gave me peace of mind over the queries I had. I have decided to go for a clean break order, but I'm not filing for divorce. She said we both need to collate all details of our financial details and then she will work out if what H is offering is fair. With the clean break, it means that I could have more in the pot than the 60/40 split. Also I wouldn't be able to claim maintenance off him or anything off him in the future. She said it was gamble, especially if he had good earning potential as I could have less in the pot but claim in the way of maintenance (hope your not confused?)



I think I need to move forward, I'm paying half the mortgage and all the bills on the home and I'm scared to spend. If all goes to plan, I will be able to buy a small home and pay for it outright and just have the bills to cover. It's scary and I'm scared, I'm losing my financial security that I have had with h.



I'm slowly accepting the situation. I want to be friends but I don't want to be friends, if you know what I mean? It seems as if it's all on his terms.... he was talking to me last night about a recurring problem at work about his contract and I felt like saying 'don't talk to me about it, you choose to walk away from me your wife, you've lost the right to confide, take it to your b*tch I can't help you with your problems'. I didn't of course, I changed the subject as I didn't know what to say and didnt really want to get involved in his problems. (not good DB)



I borrowed his car at lunch time today (emergency)and on the floor was a brochure for italy/sicily. He told me was planning a break on 16th August as he asked me to have the boys, so he could plan a break. That's knocked me a little b/c I know he wont be going there alone, he doesn't have any friends to go with, so in all probabilty its OW.

Hve to go now.


xxxx