You know best how you should handle your sitch. I'm glad you feel at peace - that is very important. Many positive things can happen even after the final papers are signed. You have grown so much over the last 3 months that you've been on here.
Here's a great big ((((((HUG)))))).
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
Thanks guys. I guess I feel a sense of closure right now but of course there are still a couple of steps before the D is finalized. It's an estimate but the final document should be ready in about 2 months. I still have time.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I'm a dork. H came by last night to get ALL of his work shirts. They haven't been ironed because the woman who comes to clean and iron once a week hasn't shown up so I offered to iron some! Thank God he said no thanks. I want to stop being so eager to please him. To top it all off I didn't even want to iron the shirts.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I fall into the same trap myself. I am a pleaser as well and it is a hard mode to get out of and still be their friend. I have been helping her move of all things. The good part is I get to see my kids at least. If he is like me then he will likely just wear them wrinkled lol
Hopefully he will come around to his senses and at least you didn't do it and feel unreciprocated afterwards
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Yes he might just wear them wrinkled. He's living at his Moms place now and she won't iron them for sure. He said he'll take them to get ironed...we'll see if he's willing to fork over the fee for that
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
It feels like nothing has changed. Yesterday after I gave him the letter he hugged me when I asked. We had lunch with his sister and her friend after we signed the document. Lenny Kravitz is coming her in October and we're planning on going. I dropped off something to H in the car this morning and he blew me a kiss when he left. He was here doing some work when I came back around 2. We had a small chit chat. We're cheerful with each other. I told him he owed me sushi and he agreed that it would be nice to go have sushi. Last time I suggested anything he told me "it's not healthy for us to spend time together" It's nice. I hope we can be friends.
I'm also learning not to ask questions that I don't want to hear the answers to. I ask questions and then when he tells me an answer I feel worse so from now on I'll at least try not to ask any dead end questions.
Jen
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Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I'm still working on it. I know I could have done a few things differently. I thought H filed in Feb. He never did. No papers were submitted until this week. In hind sight I could have done more to save our M but I let fear and sadness take over and affect what I could have done to save my M.
I still have some time. And I hope for the best.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
