Thank you soo much for sharing! Having all the history in on place is great. It was not long winded at all (compared to trying to backtrack all your threads...)
I will check into reading the books you mentioned. And will be quitely following your story.....
Best wishes!
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
SallyM, just like on the phone...I just haaaaad to interupt.
Girl, even I didn't know everything that had happened. So much pain, yet so much growing. You guys both did RIGHT by the kids. So much to muddle through for both of you, yet you put them first. I commend you both. I commend you for being such an open and loving person. I commend (yes, I do...) your H for taking a scary leap back to his marriage. We forget how terrified they might actually be, just of different things.
Thanks for sharing. Your posts don't seem long because I love your writing!
lwb, face it, if you didn't interrupt, you wouldn't get a word in edgewise!
cat, I think thats it. even if this is all a bump in the road on the way to divorce for me, I still take away my growth. I am so grateful for that growth. I remember swashy I think it was saying something about being almost grateful to his WAS for all the growth he experienced. I remember not completely understanding that, but I do now. not that I am super happy about the affair, but it was the impetus that got me to therapy that made me realize I even needed therapy and all the subsequent growth that resulted.
saffie, mwah! is kisses.
only have a minute this morning. h came over last night to check out S6's baseball pics that came yesterday. we talked some more...nice talk, actually. he asked if I had any thoughts on a MC or could get a rec from my IC. this is a man who isn't a fan of therapy, but looks like he is ready to put in the work. we talked about taking it very slowly, about a lot of things. it was just a really good talk. and we talked a bit about the past year and it was really interesting, some of the things I learned. he was very open and it was nice and sweet and he seems willing to do anything to make it better. but not in a desperate way, which I like...just a matter of fact one.
he said a lot of things I know a lot of us long to hear...about thinking the grass was greener with her lifestyle. last year he told me I was boring, the most boring person he knew. um, 3 little kids, sahm, probably not all that exciting, a bit pedestrian actually. but he thought the circus would be a fun place to live, and he discovered its okay for a while, but too much isn't a good thing either.
gotta run, just wanted to give a quick update. so far so good. and still I think he needs to work on himself, not just on saving our R. that will be crucial for me to continue with us.
am I really in this place? really???
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Have a fantastic date Sally....now remember what your mother used to say about dates....well mine did...don't go putting it out on the first date!!!! Make 'em work for you!!!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
